Do I have a right and should I ask for my husbands email passwords?

I caught him cheatting on me(just in chat that I could prove) and we were working on things, but I caught him in a lie, can I ask him for passwords, so I can see what he is doing? I real don't beleive in divorce, but I can't keep doing this. We have a 8 month old that I am trying to think of as well.

Do I have a right and should I ask for my husbands email passwords?
I'd worry more about building trust with him again.





HE - should be doing things to rebuild your trust as well. If he's engaged in a cyber-affair already, then he needs to stay the hell off those types of boards.





You can ask / tell him you want his passwords, but really what good does that do?





Do you REALLY want to be in a marriage where you have to periodically "check" on your husband? That's not much of a marriage. Either he curbs his online activity and begins to engage in activities with you and the family, or sadly - he may have already made his decision - he's just too big of a p*ssy to be the one to leave.





You guys need a good counselor and time together to rebuid trust. Heck - if he had cheated via phone sex, would would be on here asking that he "party line" you in on all his phone calls ?!?!?





Passwords will do nothing - work on the trust or get out.
Reply:it wont matter...he will just give you the password of the account you know and will re-open a new one....
Reply:SURE YOU DO.
Reply:if he asked you for forgiveness and you forgave him and he don't have nothing to hide the he would not have a reason for not giving you his password
Reply:You can ask but it would be up to him if he gives it to you or not. If he is being secretive then most likely he is doing no good.
Reply:You have the right to ask, he has the right to not give them, or all of them. Primary concern is your daughter, so do what is best for her. Remember, that you are her role model, and your actions will form her belief structure in the future. The hubby is chatting because there is something or someone missing in his life. Seek a qualified marriage counselor, for yourself, and if he goes, then it can be worked on, or given up with dignity for all of you
Reply:You could get software that records every keystroke and install it on his computer. I have never done this but have heard about others doing it. At least you would know the truth, otherwise you are going around accusing him and being suspicous all the time. In the end you will lose him anyway, get the truth or let it go. Those are your only two choices.
Reply:you can ask but he can also say NO!
Reply:You can ask...but I doubt he will give them to you. And if you do, he will probably just delete everything and then where will you be? Cheaters are very good at covering their tracks.





And even if you do "catch" him...then what? It isn't like he is all of a sudden going to change into the responsible monogamous man you deserve. I understand you want him to change...but I doubt HE wants to change himself.
Reply:u better cus thats a cheater ,. dump him
Reply:marriage is based on trust %26amp; communication.


i don't thik you should ask for them. if you can't trust him %26amp; can't communicate w/ him, then you shouldn't be married to him. that's my opionion.
Reply:you can ask him for the passwords, but doesn't mean he has to give them to you or anything else. you could tell him it will help earn back the trust that has been lost.
Reply:If you caught your husband cheating, he's the one who has to show all his cards to prove he stopped.You have every right to ask for his password and check his e-mail. If he gets defensive about it and tries to use the " you don't trust me " you know there's a problem. I have to say all the guys I know who have cheated on their girlfriends/wives have not stopped. (maybe got better at hiding). Once a liar always a liar. I hope I'm wrong in your case, especially with you having a child together.





GL..........Rich
Reply:tell him give up the password or hit the door and doint come back as they say once a cheater always a cheater time to move on this guty will keep doing this to you he doesnt love you if he did he never would have done it the first time think about it
Reply:forget it. He is lonely now with your time ebing consumed with the baby. Asking for his passwords is way too much. If you cant trust a guy, then you have to walk. end of story.
Reply:Sure you have a right to ask for it. He also has a right to deny you his password. Amateur spying causes more problems than it solves.
Reply:The trust is gone.
Reply:yes of course you have the right however i wouldn't let it be the last straw on your marriage.





Throw a little bit his way and see if he likes the taste of his own medicine.
Reply:No. Don't ask him. If you want to catch him cheating, don't let on that you're spying on him. Instead, purchase a keystroke logger and covertly install on your computer. You'll get his passwords without him knowing it.





If he voluntarily gives you his passwords, he'll just sign up for a new email account somewhere else.
Reply:No, I would never ask.
Reply:Reading his email is just going to cause him to open secret accounts with passwords that you don't know. If you're going to work things out, you need to be able to trust each other.





If you both really want to work this out, you should try marriage counseling with restrictions on computer time and activities.
Reply:do you love him? Do you love him so much you will not leave him?


if your answer is yes then play stupid.


make a plan better your life your self esteem and when you are strong if he is still doing things like cheating leave him.


Dont ever never ever let a man know you know he is cheating unless your ready to walk out for good!


once a man knows you know it gets worse not better!
Reply:Well, ethically you have the right but I do not think that legally there is such a right. You are adult just sit and talk and the best thing is to go to counseling.
Reply:you can ask but hes not obligated to give. try to explain to him that since your working on his infedelity issues you would feel more comfortable if you could access his email, to build trust again. thats all you have to say.. its like asking for permission to snoop and he cant disagree with you on a moral level.
Reply:If you need to ask for passwords you certainly don't trust him. And he has broken the trust in the past too. Who is e-mailing now anyway? This doesn't sound like a man who is sorry for cheating (chat or otherwise) and who is trying to rebuild trust again.
Reply:wow, hard place
Reply:You can ask, but if he says no, you can't take them from them.





Would you really want them? Do you want to be the woman who has to spy on her husband? Don't let him put you in that position. Either leave him, or try to work things out. Give him another chance, and tell him if he blows it this time, it's over. But accept that 'another chance' for him means starting off with as clean a slate as you can give him: no spying, no stalking, no suspicions until justified.
Reply:of course you have a right.. your his wife ...
Reply:yes, you have a right, and because he has cheated before, and he refuses to give the passwords, he is most likely to cheat again...





don't trust him, I wouldn't...!





cheating is good reason to divorce, but, if you want to see if he will stop, for good...sure, ask him to stop and tell you everything! if he don't stop, it's divorce... he has to open up totally or there is absolutely no reason to trust him... he screwed up...
Reply:Either love and trust ur husband or move on. checking up on him means u dont love him...dont waste ur life living with somebody u dont love
Reply:how do you cheat in a chatroom?

market survey