Should married couples keep their email / myspace passwords from each other?

Ther are time I have thought about checking my wife's email, but then I think, to a point, we all deserve some privacy. If there is something more going on It will probably show

Should married couples keep their email / myspace passwords from each other?
If my husband asked me for mine I would want to know why he needs it.....if he wants to snoop than no I wouldn't give it to him but if it's a valid reason than I have no problem giving it to him. I wouldn't let something like myspace or email ruin my marriage.
Reply:I would not want to know...but if I asked him to show me what's going on and he would be weird about that I would be suspicious :-)
Reply:Not for any reason. They must share the passwords since thay share same bank accounts and pin numbers.
Reply:Email passwords should be kept secrets. My friend's often email me when they are having marital or family issues and they would not be happy if I let other people read their drama.





Myspace password...I don't care if my spouse has that.
Reply:Absolutely not! If he is and refuses to give them to you, he's hiding something. Found this out the hard way myself. Good luck.
Reply:I don't believe that is the same as keeping bank passwords or work passwords.





Email or myspace is meant to provide privacy for the user but I believe that there needs to be justification for giving something private away. To give it away gives power to the other person but it also reveals trust.





Would I give my myspace password to my husband? Yes. Why not...no reason not too...but it seems that some things like giving a password mean more than the action itself.





You see...if I saw that someone was suspicious and wanted the password to spy on me..I would finding that quite alarming. I know a friend of mine who felt completely comfortable spying on her boyfriend. She even dug around his house for letter/other suspicious things that she could use to prove he was cheating. She was well educated and felt quite justified. Afterall, he was cheating.





But here is my thought: if you are to the point that you need to spy then either you or your significant other has a problem. Why not find out the problem and avoid spying.





It is the reason for the password that matters. Not the password.
Reply:Not at all. To do so suggests that you're still single.
Reply:Nope. Sounds like somebody's hiding something if so. . . .
Reply:i have told him what my passwords are... and i know that occasionally he checks... haha. and I know his... i sometimes check but very very rarely. we don't have anything to keep from the other. he's my best bud why keep things?
Reply:I don't think there's any need to post them on the fridge for all to see. On the other hand, asking for a password kind of indicates you are suspicious and refusing to give a password kind of implies you are hiding something. Hmm....maybe it IS better to just post them on the fridge, then nobody has to wonder why they are being asked for it and nobody has to wonder why they are not giving it up...
Reply:My wife %26amp; I don't keep passwords from each other... if there's nothing to hide there's no reason to keep secrets and create suspicion.